There are many painful reasons why love hasn’t shown up in our lives yet, but one of the biggest ones is our mindset.
What we think sets the tone for what we allow and attract into our lives. You may have heard the term scarcity mindset before, but here I’ll explain how it affects your ability to attract anything you desire… including love.
What Is a Scarcity Mindset?
Scarcity, by definition, is the lack or insufficiency of something. It’s the belief that what we want does exist, but there isn’t enough of it for everyone.
We see this clearly after natural disasters — hurricanes, earthquakes — when food and water aren’t enough to meet everyone’s needs.
How Does Scarcity Show Up in Your Life?
Scarcity doesn’t only appear in moments of crisis. It often shows up in everyday thinking, with money being the most common example.
If you believe that “money doesn’t grow on trees” or that you need to “take it from someone else” in order to have more, you’re operating from a scarcity mindset.
Love works exactly the same way.
Many romantic ideas in our culture feed this distortion. For example, when you believe there are only a few compatible partners for you… or that there is only one soulmate destined for your life… you’re unconsciously limiting yourself and creating unnecessary pressure to find “the one.”
Just imagine what it would mean if there were truly only one person meant for us in this entire world, or the heartbreak of believing we already found him and the relationship didn’t work.
These kinds of beliefs are what keep so many women stuck in unhealthy relationships long after they should have walked away, because they’re afraid they’ll never feel that connection with anyone else again.
That is a scarcity mindset!
So… How Can We Actually Find Love?
Opening yourself to receiving the love and abundance that already exists around you!
When you shift out of that limited vision of reality and understand that there is more than enough — especially when it comes to love — all the pressure around “finding” and “keeping” a partner dissolves.
Instead, you open yourself to experiencing love in countless forms, not just in romantic relationships.
Love is unlimited.
It exists everywhere:
- Love is a sunny morning
- Love is making it to work on time when you thought you’d be late
- Love is laughing with friends
- Love is the scent of a flower
- Love is your favorite song
- Love is your sibling’s hug
- Love is your dog waiting for you at the door
Love is every moment that expands you, warms your heart, and awakens you.
When you live with curiosity, appreciating love in everyday life, you’ll realize something powerful:
Love is infinite, and there is more than enough for everyone.
I’d love to hear what comes up for you after reading this, tell me in the comments or send me a message on social.
Love love,
Itzel
Be Love, Attract Love
